I woke up to my phone ringing, I glimpsed at the name on screen... Dale Forth, my soon to be ex husband. I instantly pressed the silence button and let the voicemail pick up the call.
I can’t be doing with the hassle and harassment from him, not today. For today is the second anniversary for my first miscarriage, it was only back then that I realised that I do want children of my own and last year I had a second miscarriage, somewhat dashing my hopes of ever becoming a mother.
I listened to the voicemail immediately after he hung up and it was as follows...
Dale (very aggressive tone) - “Will you stop removing my friends from Face Book, it’s very childish”
After listening to this I soon became angry, annoyed, confused and quite frankly pissed off. Whenever I view his account, I am there purely as a spectator. I only read what he has been writing and have never ever done anything nor will I ever do anything to the account. I know that if I was ever to do anything on his account it would blow my cover and put me in a very tight spot indeed. He doesn’t even know that I am aware of his login details, well not for sure anyway. If he had any sense, he would change his password as he had advised me to do the same when he was snooping on my e-mails. Anyhow, why would I want to remove his friends? What’s the point? And he thinks I’m childish?! Perhaps he ought to take a look in the mirror!
It then dawned on me, perhaps he was referring to my friends and work colleagues. Within the first couple of months of splitting up I had noticed that he was adding all of my friends and work colleagues to his account (including one of my ex's). I had e-mailed all of them warning them all that he was my husband (in case they thought it was someone else) and made them all aware that we had split up and he was a little bitter. I also included on the e-mail to them all that Dale was trying to spread shit about me and generally make my life hell. They all responded very well and immediately removed him from their lists. But he can’t blame me for that, it was other people doing it, not me personally! There is no way that I have physically done that myself. Could that be what he meant?
Soon after the call I logged onto his account to have a look for myself. I wanted to try to get to the bottom of the call. I immediately saw something that made my blood boil. Hubby had changed his status to “I am annoyed that Skelly the Guy has removed my friends from Face Book... Wot a sad act she is.”
Skelly was a nickname that the Goth’s used to call me, mostly referring to my skinny, skeletal frame. Never a good thing having the name Kelly, the only words that rhyme are horrible! Dale always knew that this name upset me and would always stand up for me whenever they said it. Now obviously the tables have turned and he is using it as the latest ammunition against me.
I hate the way he is making up these pathetic lies about me, especially online where thousands, no millions of people can read it including all of our friends. I am just extremely lucky that the vast majority of our friends know that I am not like that and are sticking by me throughout this.
I checked his “recently added friends” to see whether he had re-added the friends I was supposed to of removed yet. The only additional one was Karen, who he had blocked and removed himself a couple of weeks ago.
I took a peek at his inbox as I wanted to see if he had e-mailed them, which it turns out he had. There were two sent messages to a couple of young girls we go to church with. Both e-mails said the exact same thing, “Hi, I have seen that you have removed me as a friend. Have I done something to upset you? Please let me know.”
These girls are no more than 16 years old. I remember the last time Richard came over, he mentioned that he had noticed Dale had added a few of the younger girls from church as his friends on Face Book which he was slightly concerned about. Barry had said the exact same thing to me just a few weeks before. Rich had told me that he was worried that Dale would “prey” on the younger generations as I was half his age and was clearly what he preferred sexually.
Dale has still not received a reply from either of the girls and I seriously doubt he will if Richard has spoken to them and that could possibly be the reason they have removed him.