Managed to get back to sleep once mum had left for work and woke again around 10. Went online to find Dale had emailed me again. This time he seems to have finally seen the light, that it was him who has done wrong and not try to put the blame on me. He even called himself a “wanker” and “cunt”!!! I would like to make it clear - he said that NOT me! Although it is very true!
I then got a little too nosey for my own good and logged onto his email account to be faced with two suspicious emails. One was from a Christian dating site saying he had 6 members wanting to meet him and the other was also a dating site saying his photo had been accepted. Obviously I was very curious at this stage and looked up his age group on match.com (how we met in the first place) and his account had been active in the last 3 days, surprise, surprise! This to me is showing that he is actively seeking an affair and doesn’t seem to realise that we are still married and will remain married until probably late next year when we have both signed on the dotted line and the divorce is finalised.
He sent me a text whilst I was online saying he had been offered a maisonette in Southampton, he just had to save up for the move. I don’t yet know when he intends on moving, however either way I (for my solicitor) will need to know his whereabouts so that his parts of the paperwork can be sent to him. My main worry is that he will move and not tell anybody, including his solicitor, and I will remain married to him until he has signed the forms off. Either that or I would have to wait a minimum of 3 years and file for a legal separation which my solicitor did not seem too willing to do.
Mum took the afternoon off to come to the solicitors with me. It seemed a waste of time. They said it was pointless in doing a legal separation unless there would be a financial gain, which there wasn’t as we had no joint financial commitments together. She also said I would have to hold fire and wait until next May before filing for divorce which by then we would have legally been married for one year. From what she said and the information I had told her I should have good, strong grounds for divorce.
I have also found out that normally it would cost approximately £500 to cover the divorce, but thankfully because of being on long term sick leave my earnings are low enough (by only £50!) to be entitled to receiving legal aid. This is a government funding scheme by which they (the government) will pay all of my solicitor fees.