I have just been passing the time this morning by doing my favourite puzzles... Sudoku! I am completely addicted with them and could quite happily spend all day sat there completing page after page! I did my usual snoop on the internet, obviously checking my own e-mail and Face Book accounts first and then doing the sneaky checking of Dale’s accounts. On his e-mail, he has tried to e-mail a woman near London whom he had become close to (online only) not so long ago. He then sent her a message saying “I have prayed long and hard about this and God says shouldn’t talk to you anymore”!!! This was all because she was into a form of healing called reiki which Dale is completely against. Today's message to her was along the lines of “Don’t be cry baby and talk to me, even if it is spouting evil obscenities towards me” He is a very, very strange man.
When I saw his Face Book account, I became rather concerned. You have a status message at the top which people fill out with a brief message of how they are feeling, and Dale’s read “I am feeling annoyed that someone has set light to my car”. I remembered immediately a conversation we had a couple of months before I left him, in which he was saying how he wanted to take his (rubbish) car to a deserted lane and torch it to make an insurance claim as he needed the money. It took a great deal of arguing before he would see my side, however he was still convinced that was the right thing to do and that there was no wrong in doing it. Please remember this is a man who at the time was training to become a minister in the church! I scrolled further down the page to see a message from a good friend of ours saying “Sorry to hear about your car mate, any idea who it was?”. Dale’s response “It could be the neighbours we used to have problems with or Kelly might have put her new boyfriend up to it”
Seeing this message absolutely infuriated me, so I called my mum (who else?!) for some advise, she just said there was probably nothing we could do about it and to steer well clear until he says any other slanderous comments. As soon as I hung up from our conversation, my old minister (Richard) from Taunton phoned me and asked if I wanted a visitor. He didn’t even need to ask! I desperately wanted to see a friendly face from the town I called home, and someone who could possibly shed some light on the latest of the Dale situation.
After agreeing to the visit, I called Phillis and explained to her my dilemma about the car torching incident. She said that it does sound suspicious, however, she didn’t believe he would have done it himself as it was right outside of the flat, but there was always the possibility of him having become someone else to do it. Phillis even said, of course he was going to put the blame onto me, he was still very much deluded and he was believing the stories he himself was making up! She said that she would check with her husband (also a good friend of both me and Dale and the person he made the comments to) and find out when they can pop over to see me as she wants to catch up properly.
Rich turned up about half an hour later and we sat down to a cup of tea (what else do you offer a man of the church, eh?!). He said that the car was suspicious, however I should try to forget as there was nothing I could do. He also confirmed a lot that Phillis had said on the phone, including the fact that Richard had told Dale he was no longer allowed to do any testimonies within the church due to his current state of mind. Me and Richard swapped stories of Dalefor nearly two hours when he dropped a bomb shell on me...
I asked how my soon to be ex-stepson was doing and Rich looked over at me and said not too good. The other night he paid Dale and Jonathon a visit and my stepson was just going to bed. He obviously knew that Richard was there to talk about me and suddenly piped up “When’s Kelly coming home?” and Dale snapped back “She’s not, she doesn’t love nor care for you, go to bed”. Obviously he didn’t settle and soon got back up complaining he couldn’t sleep and made Dale read him a story. As soon as he was back in the room with Richard, Rich told him off for saying what he did to the kid. Richard also said to him that he needs to get his facts straight before saying anything like that, because that was one thing he was certain off, that I did love and care for the kid more than anything.
Richard also mentioned to me that when he got to the flat the gas fire was on full blast with the lounge window wide open! Apparently Dale’s reason was that the Doctor had said that Jonathon needs constant fresh air to help his asthma. The kid didn’t have asthma, I know this because we had taken him to the Doctor’s at the beginning of the year to investigate a cough that he had, but the Doc said it definitely was not asthma. After I had said all of this to Rich, he said he believed the window was open to clear the air of the smell, however Dale didn’t appear stoned at all. I explained to him that Dale hides it very, very well indeed. I used to hang around with people who smoked it, I had even had quite a few spliffs myself so i knew the signs inside and out, but with Dale, you often had to be stood within a foot of him, able to look deep inside his eyes before you could tell, he was very clever with hiding his tracks.
Later in the day, when mum returned home, I got rather snappy with her as my emotions had finally caught up with me. I hate to cry in front of people (even family) as it shows that you are weak, and I was only just able to stop the tears from flowing. I later apologised and explained everything that had been happening during the day. We watched a very silly kids film (I swear it’s aimed at adults though!) to try and cheer me up.
Drew text me as usual and I was a bit off with him, I really must have been down as he can always manage to cheer me up. He even suggested that he was to back off to give me some space to sort my head out and so that my ex wouldn’t have anything to find out, but only if I wanted. I replied that I definitely didn’t want him to back off, I enjoy his company and although I had always said I didn’t want anything serious, it’s headed that way. I also told him the only thing that was going to cheer me up today was a big cuddle from him. He then called me soppy.
I think at the moment I just need to get away. I hate being cooped up for too long in the same place with the same people, I need a break from it (with a nice man I reckon) to freshen up.